Saturday, October 07, 2006
its intriguing. the many different ways one can look at things. the same issue. different viewpoints. all if not most make sense in their own way. it all depends on what your base-line is. one's motivations are of utmost importance in influencing the way that the mind works.
take the simple issue of love for example. or for that matter, relationships. offhand, it would seem as a rather simple concept. i like you, you like me, we get to know each other better, then, i love you, you love me. rubbish. these things are more complicated than just that. there are alot of factors to consider when you want to go ahead and actually barge into the concept and intricacies of what is called love.
feelings must be considered. not only the two involved in the relationship. but how others would think. the way it started-was it controversial? did someone get hurt in the process? the parties involved-is one side unpopular? bad history? the relationship itself-is one side too demanding? too controlling? often seen with others from the oppposite sex? the above are just a few examples of the many ways that people can gossip about a particular relationship.
so just think about it. even if the parties involved are happily in love together, there is a 90% chance that they would fallout over one of the many issues such as those above or perhaps the normal problems that plague the average couple. think about it. people's gossip can definately ruin the pure concept of love.
but why let other people run your life? its your life after all, you say. but face the reality. the chances that either of you will get affected/influenced by what people around you are saying and/or telling you is pretty high. and even if that is not the case, one would be at the very least rather unhappy.
ok im losing my train of thought. brain's getting distracted. oh yes. there we are.
when a breakup occurs, its never anybody's FAULT in particular. everything happened for a reason. feelings fade over time, thats a fact. new and interesting people are constantly appearing in life, thats a fact. no one relationship is perfect, thats a fact. what really matters when a relationship is going sour or even in pieces is what you have learnt from the experience and not to dwell on the "i should have done this" and the "i should not have done that" aspect. since its already gone, why bother wasting your energy torturing yourself. at least you learnt something. you learnt what not to do for next time. how to deal with such a situation the next time it occurs. and for those who say, but he/she was THE ONE!!! i only have one word for you-rubbish. believe it or not, there's no such thing as THE ONE. it wasnt that person that made you feel that he/she was the one. it was what YOU HAD with him/her that made it feel like the one.
and believe me, that and more can easily be found with someone else. but. yes there's always a but this and but that right? but. you have to be willing to let go of your past. let go of the hurt, the pain. do not let it be a burden to your growth. let it be a nutrient instead. only when you are able to let go ( LET GO not FORGET ) of what you shared with your previous flame will you then be able to discover the gems around you and what someone else really has to offer. do not look back at what you once had. look forward to what you CAN have and perhaps more. be daring.
and the world spits on me again
take the simple issue of love for example. or for that matter, relationships. offhand, it would seem as a rather simple concept. i like you, you like me, we get to know each other better, then, i love you, you love me. rubbish. these things are more complicated than just that. there are alot of factors to consider when you want to go ahead and actually barge into the concept and intricacies of what is called love.
feelings must be considered. not only the two involved in the relationship. but how others would think. the way it started-was it controversial? did someone get hurt in the process? the parties involved-is one side unpopular? bad history? the relationship itself-is one side too demanding? too controlling? often seen with others from the oppposite sex? the above are just a few examples of the many ways that people can gossip about a particular relationship.
so just think about it. even if the parties involved are happily in love together, there is a 90% chance that they would fallout over one of the many issues such as those above or perhaps the normal problems that plague the average couple. think about it. people's gossip can definately ruin the pure concept of love.
but why let other people run your life? its your life after all, you say. but face the reality. the chances that either of you will get affected/influenced by what people around you are saying and/or telling you is pretty high. and even if that is not the case, one would be at the very least rather unhappy.
ok im losing my train of thought. brain's getting distracted. oh yes. there we are.
when a breakup occurs, its never anybody's FAULT in particular. everything happened for a reason. feelings fade over time, thats a fact. new and interesting people are constantly appearing in life, thats a fact. no one relationship is perfect, thats a fact. what really matters when a relationship is going sour or even in pieces is what you have learnt from the experience and not to dwell on the "i should have done this" and the "i should not have done that" aspect. since its already gone, why bother wasting your energy torturing yourself. at least you learnt something. you learnt what not to do for next time. how to deal with such a situation the next time it occurs. and for those who say, but he/she was THE ONE!!! i only have one word for you-rubbish. believe it or not, there's no such thing as THE ONE. it wasnt that person that made you feel that he/she was the one. it was what YOU HAD with him/her that made it feel like the one.
and believe me, that and more can easily be found with someone else. but. yes there's always a but this and but that right? but. you have to be willing to let go of your past. let go of the hurt, the pain. do not let it be a burden to your growth. let it be a nutrient instead. only when you are able to let go ( LET GO not FORGET ) of what you shared with your previous flame will you then be able to discover the gems around you and what someone else really has to offer. do not look back at what you once had. look forward to what you CAN have and perhaps more. be daring.
Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes.
In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang on to the past is holding you back from a new life.
theres no need to be sorry.
and the world spits on me again
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THE DARKER SIDE OF ME;
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THE DARKER SIDE OF ME;
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