Wednesday, October 25, 2006
third parties. the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. that other girl. or guy. that bitch. bastard. that heartless creature who broke up a happy relationship. mean people they are. but is it really their fault?
blaming that 'third party' does no one any good. for one, its hardly that person's fault. all right he or she might have known that your beloved was attached to you. but feelings are boundary-less. uncontainable. unstoppable. uncontrollable. he/she could have liked your other half til there was no end. but ultimately, the choice of whether you stay in the picture lies in your beloved's hands. if you get booted, then hey. feelings between you two werent that strong after all.
think about it. the mere fact that your other half actually strayed from you is proof enough that something is going wrong. and unless you can reel him/her back in to you, its pointless getting so heart-wrenched over it. if it works out between you two, then fine the relationship gets stronger. but if it doesnt, jus walk out of it.
but. for those of you out there who find yourselves dropping in as third parties. this does not mean that you go all out to spoil things between the two lovebirds. there is a line that has to be drawn so that you do not find yourself getting cursed and scolded. jus be there as a friend or perhaps slightly closer. do not fall into anything with your 'target'. do not get into any commitments. do not get physical. in essence, do not give him/her a reason to break up. as in. do not be the reason they break. let it be something that would have happened even without your presence and not cos you are more of a looker or a better kisser or what-have-you.
i know what it feels like to be dumped by a loved one for another guy. but i learnt to get over it. and i came up with my own 'rules' for being that other guy.
the game of love. i hate it sometimes.
and the world spits on me again
blaming that 'third party' does no one any good. for one, its hardly that person's fault. all right he or she might have known that your beloved was attached to you. but feelings are boundary-less. uncontainable. unstoppable. uncontrollable. he/she could have liked your other half til there was no end. but ultimately, the choice of whether you stay in the picture lies in your beloved's hands. if you get booted, then hey. feelings between you two werent that strong after all.
think about it. the mere fact that your other half actually strayed from you is proof enough that something is going wrong. and unless you can reel him/her back in to you, its pointless getting so heart-wrenched over it. if it works out between you two, then fine the relationship gets stronger. but if it doesnt, jus walk out of it.
but. for those of you out there who find yourselves dropping in as third parties. this does not mean that you go all out to spoil things between the two lovebirds. there is a line that has to be drawn so that you do not find yourself getting cursed and scolded. jus be there as a friend or perhaps slightly closer. do not fall into anything with your 'target'. do not get into any commitments. do not get physical. in essence, do not give him/her a reason to break up. as in. do not be the reason they break. let it be something that would have happened even without your presence and not cos you are more of a looker or a better kisser or what-have-you.
i know what it feels like to be dumped by a loved one for another guy. but i learnt to get over it. and i came up with my own 'rules' for being that other guy.
the game of love. i hate it sometimes.
and the world spits on me again
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THE DARKER SIDE OF ME;
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THE DARKER SIDE OF ME;
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